All Four Lives · Manifesto
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You're Not Failing. You're Living Four Lives at Once.
(And Why Work-Life Balance Won't Save You)
In 2021, I noticed something I am not proud of. I had started to resent the people I love most. And the career I was supposed to be proud of. Not for what they had done. For what I had decided to give up. For them.
By every external measure, I had made it. A senior role at a Geneva private bank. A new home. A wedding. A first child, healthy and wonderful. A wife who is a brilliant doctor, building her own career. And inside, I was empty.
This is the essay I wish someone had handed me that year.